As a mother, putting yourself first can feel hard (or even wrong). We give so much to everyone around us and the little bit of energy we have left is usually spent re-cooperating on the couch! It feels like a lot of work, but what if I put it to you this way: You really deserve this. And putting yourself first really can be this easy:
1. Massage your face
I know, I know… this sounds weird. But trust me when I say there is a lot of tension in your face muscles that can go unnoticed. Using your index finger, find the spot where the bridge of your nose connects to your cheek. Softly but with some effort, follow the muscle in your cheek and across your face. Follow this same pattern but cascading down your cheekbones towards your chin, and then back along your jawline (almost like making a “Z” on your face). Believe me when I say that introducing this routine into your life will help to ease some tension!
2. Practice deep breathing
Maybe you have heard this one before, but there’s probably a reason for that. Our breath controls our energy and our pace. If you are feeling rushed, stressed, upset, frustrated or any kind of tension, you may experience a quickened heartbeat; a racing mind; a shaking hand, or a loud voice. Try to focus your breath (close your eyes if you can) by slowly counting “five Mississippi’s.” If you’re more attuned physically, you may like to introduce a stress ball into your life. Breathing, squeezing, and taking a moment to centre yourself is the least you can do when you’re feeling like you’re gonna lose it!
3. Drink up (your H2O)
This is something many of us are guilty of… not drinking enough water! It’s so easy to forget to drink a liquid that is not piping hot and caffeinated, but it turns out our bodies really need the clear stuff. Water helps our skin stay clear, keeps our organs healthy and balances out our body. If you don’t like using a water bottle every day, try setting reminders on your phone. This way you can keep track of when you are drinking, and how much. There are even apps on your phone that will help you keep up!
Winter has come and my skin suffers this time around. Dry heels, cracked palms and flaky skin do not make for a happy lady! On top of staying hydrated, giving your skin a little extra help with some moisturizer will help to keep you feeling smooth and comfortable this season. With hand sanitizer becoming a daily household item, keeping some lotion in your bag, in your car or on your desk at work is a great way to keep moisturized. This includes lip balm, too! Winter winds are not forgiving on cracked lips, so Blistex is sure to be your new best friend.
5. Be kind to yourself
This last one may seem like a cop-out, but this is the most important tip of all. These past few months have not been easy. Things may feel hard, and that’s okay. The important thing is that you are still standing. Your strength and resilience says something about who you are as a person, and what your place in this world is. Your courage helps others, and our lives would not be the same without you. If you’re feeling down or frustrated with yourself, give yourself a break. It’s okay to not be okay - but the sun will go on to set another day.